Category: Personal Growth

expect nothing

Expect nothing

“It is important to expect nothing, to take every experience, including the negative ones, as merely steps on the path, and to proceed.”
Ram Dass

Purple Light

Purple light district

Purple light district (more polyamory related, erotic stories can be found at www.aliceinpolyland.com)

He was a tech guru. Incredibly smart, unique, tall, handsome. Though he didn’t really believe the latter. His last relationship left him questioning his self confidence.

“Do you know why the Red Light District in Amsterdam has that name?”, asked Valen over one of their casual online chats. “I’m not sure, babe, why?” “The sex workers turn on the red lights to attract their customers… I will turn my lights purple whenever I’m in the mood.” he texted

Energy Orgasm

Eye-opening experience

I’m really enjoying facilitating these mind blowing, life changing experiences for clients and teaching a practitioner certification course to wonderful students! Ever since I’ve experienced my very first energy orgasm, I couldn’t wait to share it with the world and spread joy, pleasure, sensuality and freedom of completely embracing our authentic selves mind, heart, body and soul!! Such a bliss. DM to learn more or join my free webinar on Energy Orgasms in June: www.spiritsexlab.com/events

Self Esteem

Self-esteem and self-love work; discovering essence

SELF-ESTEEM AND SELF-LOVE WORK; DISCOVERING ESSENCE

So many of us are quite self critical, unsure of how to love ourselves unconditionally and are lucking self confidence. I’ve been there myself multiple times – feeling ashamed of my own desires, thoughts and needs. Unable to look at myself in the mirror without criticizing the way I looked. Getting easily upset with my own emotional reactions and “sensitivities”.  

The good news is, that Neuroplasticity (the brain’s ability to change itself constantly by creating new neural pathways and losing those which are no longer used) allows us to change negative patterns of thinking into the positive ones.

worth

Busy holding onto your unworthiness.

“Your problem is you’re… too busy holding onto your unworthiness.”
Ram Dass

Yes. There’s a personal story connected to this saying. One day at a rock climbing gym as I was reaching the top of the tall climbing wall I had a moment of intense fear. “You can’t do it”, – the fear said to me “this is unsafe, you will fall down, you’re just not strong enough”. It was a momentary uncomfortable experience, fear gripping my whole body and thoughts racing in my head. I looked down and saw my partner belaying me (essentially I was being held by a strong rope and so no matter what would happen, the worst outcome would’ve been me just dangling a bit in the air until I grabbed onto a stone again). I took a deep breath and looked up and noticed that I only had 3 more stones to go, I knew I was physically strong enough to proceed. And then it hit me “I was the one stopping myself. Always”.

Identifying Needs

IDENTIFYING NEEDS + REDEFINING ONESELF

IDENTIFYING NEEDS + REDEFINING ONESELF (SEXUALLY, EMOTIONALLY, SPIRITUALLY), SETTING AND MANIFESTING INTENTIONS  

Once, someone very wise has mentioned to me that while growing up we go through three stages of understanding ourselves and the world around us:

Learning what our parents and society believe we should be like and the societal norms we need to follow
Realizing that not everyone follows the same principles in life
Redefining for ourselves what our needs, values and belief systems are

Send me your fantasies contest

“What is your deepest, darkest, most intimate fantasy?” I ask in a low, slow voice looking seductively into your eyes. We don’t openly talk about sex. We feel shame, guilt, fear around our sexuality and fantasies. If we shed some light onto this darkness – incredible sense of pleasure, freedom and joy appear. Trust me, I’ve been there and feel so much more alive. Share your fantasies with me. Together, let’s shine a bit of light into the darkness of your soul.

God in drag

“Treat everyone you meet as if they are God in drag.”
Ram Dass

Whenever I notice that I’m judging someone I always try to see the traits I dislike in them in myself. I also try to zoom out from the personality level into more of a witnessing / spiritual plane and understand how incredibly brilliant their soul is. As all of us are.

What are your thoughts on this?