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Self-esteem and self-love work; discovering essence

SELF-ESTEEM AND SELF-LOVE WORK; DISCOVERING ESSENCE

So many of us are quite self critical, unsure of how to love ourselves unconditionally and are lucking self confidence. I’ve been there myself multiple times – feeling ashamed of my own desires, thoughts and needs. Unable to look at myself in the mirror without criticizing the way I looked. Getting easily upset with my own emotional reactions and “sensitivities”.

The good news is, that Neuroplasticity (the brain’s ability to change itself constantly by creating new neural pathways and losing those which are no longer used) allows us to change negative patterns of thinking into the positive ones.

Busy holding onto your unworthiness.

“Your problem is you’re… too busy holding onto your unworthiness.”
Ram Dass

Yes. There’s a personal story connected to this saying. One day at a rock climbing gym as I was reaching the top of the tall climbing wall I had a moment of intense fear. “You can’t do it”, – the fear said to me “this is unsafe, you will fall down, you’re just not strong enough”. It was a momentary uncomfortable experience, fear gripping my whole body and thoughts racing in my head. I looked down and saw my partner belaying me (essentially I was being held by a strong rope and so no matter what would happen, the worst outcome would’ve been me just dangling a bit in the air until I grabbed onto a stone again). I took a deep breath and looked up and noticed that I only had 3 more stones to go, I knew I was physically strong enough to proceed. And then it hit me “I was the one stopping myself. Always”.

IDENTIFYING NEEDS + REDEFINING ONESELF

IDENTIFYING NEEDS + REDEFINING ONESELF (SEXUALLY, EMOTIONALLY, SPIRITUALLY), SETTING AND MANIFESTING INTENTIONS

Once, someone very wise has mentioned to me that while growing up we go through three stages of understanding ourselves and the world around us:

Learning what our parents and society believe we should be like and the societal norms we need to follow
Realizing that not everyone follows the same principles in life
Redefining for ourselves what our needs, values and belief systems are

God in drag

“Treat everyone you meet as if they are God in drag.”
Ram Dass

Whenever I notice that I’m judging someone I always try to see the traits I dislike in them in myself. I also try to zoom out from the personality level into more of a witnessing / spiritual plane and understand how incredibly brilliant their soul is. As all of us are.

What are your thoughts on this?

Feeling my essence was mind blowing

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Spirit Sex Lab newsletter – June 2020

Just sent off a freshly squeezed newsletter, in it you can find:

1 Video tip on spicing up relationships
2 Free Webinar announcements
2 Healing and Personal transformation blog posts
2 Sexual Guidance articls
3 Spicy Stories

Managing difficult emotions

LEARNING TO MANAGE DIFFICULT EMOTIONS

“Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways.” — Sigmund Freud

… Pain. This familiar intense feeling of burning usually starts just below my navel, radiating up through my chest… Creating an excruciating pressing sensation between my breasts and moving up towards the throat. This energy – wanting to come out as a scream, a cry… Tears appearing and pouring out of my eyes. And another wave – covering me head to toe…

The more you can hear

“The quieter you become, the more you can hear.”

Ram Dass

I love this on so many levels – I’ve noticed that when I become quieter – I’m able to better sense into myself (meditation, mindfulness, self care); others (focusing on their energy, stories, experiences and hence understanding better); this world – you’d be surprised how much more in touch with the energy, nature, universe we become when we quiet our minds. New webinars coming up on getting in touch with ourselves, energy, sensuality and others. Stay tuned 😉

Vaginal Ecstasy – Erotica

I will share with you one of my most favorite and memorable stories… It’s about steamy pleasure, powerful experiences and lots of […]

Sensational Pics

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